I am an introvert. But oddly, most of my life I’ve been quite the opposite. As a child, I never shut up and I craved attention. I dominated conversations and made friends with anyone who could tolerate my hyperactive tendencies. The personality assessments I took throughout college to properly match me up with a freshman roommate, then as practice when I was studying psychology, then before I was hired as a dorm resident advisor all classified me as an extrovert. However, with each testing, my extroversion percentage got progressively smaller.
Now, over a decade after taking those tests, I have officially crossed over to the other side. I am a scientifically-proven introvert.
Don’t get me wrong, I like people. I like attending social gatherings (sometimes), and I like associating myself with a social group. But if given the choice between going to a party where I don’t know most of the guests and staying home and reading a book, the book will always win. When I’m in a social situation where I’m a newcomer, I’m much more comfortable listening in the background than standing in the spotlight. And my definition of relaxation usually includes being alone.
I realized how truly introverted I’ve become during my recent vacation in Jamaica with my husband. Mr. Roller Coaster will talk to anyone with a pulse. Following his lead, I found myself in a pool with a swim-up bar, milling around with a dozen people taking turns sharing their life stories. I liked these people, and I enjoyed their stories, but I didn’t go on vacation to spend my time with people I’ll never see again. Call me antisocial, but soon I had migrated with my fruity cocktail to the lone hammock overlooking the clear blue sea. While Mr. Roller Coaster conversed with the other vacationers, I swung in the hammock with my iPod set to my Ruminations playlist, book in hand, ignoring the world. To me, that was pure bliss.
My introversion is probably why I love blogging. Blogging is the perfect way for an introvert to be gregarious. I can socialize from the comfort of my home without having to wear makeup. Facebook and Twitter? Yeah, they’re introvert compatible as well. Introverts can ostensibly get their daily recommended allowances of socialization without ever changing out of their pajamas. Personally, I’m not THAT introverted, but I’m sure there are people out there who are.
I have no explanation for my personality shift over the years. If anything, you would think I’d become more extroverted considering my life as a mil spouse and my career as a teacher. But I am who I am. I am an introvert.
So are you more introverted or extroverted?
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