We mil spouses can use all the help we can get while our husbands are deployed. The help we need varies depending on our individual situations (whether or not we have children, whether or not we have family nearby, etc.), but we all can use a helping hand every now and then. Here are my…
Top 10 Ways to Help a Mil Spouse During a Deployment
10) Mow her lawn. And if you’re feeling especially generous, bring on the weed wacker too.
9) If you’re going to the grocery store, call her and ask if she needs anything. She’ll most likely say no, but you might just catch her on that day she ran out of milk and can’t fathom dragging her kids out to buy more.
8) Schedule a girls’ night out. And book her a baby-sitter if she doesn’t already have one.
7) Send her husband an email, a letter, or a care package to reassure him that all is well on the home front.
6) Give her a night off from cooking and stop by with a meal. (Give her enough notice though so you don’t drop by WHILE she’s cooking.)
5) If you have children, invite her and her kids over for a playdate. The kids can play while the adults can chat.
4) Listen when she needs to vent. No advice necessary (unless she asks for it). Just listen.
3) Periodically offer to take her kids for a few hours so she can go shopping, get a massage, or simply enjoy the silence.
2) Don’t stop calling her just because you don’t know what to say. She needs all the friends she can get. On the other extreme, don’t bombard her with phone calls. Give her the space she needs.
1) Don’t tell her to call you if she needs any help. Mil Spouses are incredibly independent people. We won’t call. If you want to do something for her, just do it. We may not like asking for help, but we’ll gladly accept it!
What tops your list?