Top 10 Things I Feel Guilty About
10) I feel guilty that I don’t iron. At all. Anything. I HATE to iron. I’d rather have wrinkled clothes than iron. I’d rather pay to have my entire wardrobe dry cleaned than iron. I used to iron Mr. RC’s uniforms, but when I went back to work, I told him I was done. We both work. If he wants his uniform free of wrinkles, it’s up to him. And Downy Wrinkle Releaser.
9) I feel guilty that I’m a terrible housekeeper and that I’m considering dishing out a portion of my paycheck to hire a housekeeper. I don’t mind grocery shopping, cooking, washing and folding laundry, cleaning up dog poop, taking out the trash, or washing dishes. But dusting, vacuuming, mopping, and oh gross, cleaning in and around toilets, not my thing.
8) I feel guilty for allowing my daughter to watch television shows that are probably inappropriate for her. When Big C was younger, I was VERY strict about his television viewing. But he didn’t have an older sibling watching shows for older children like Little C does. During the week, my kids watch 2 DVR’ed shows per day, that’s it. One show is Big C’s choice, the other is Little C’s choice. What am I supposed to do, make Little C go to her room while Big C watches Star Wars? Good luck with that.
(One of my kindergarten students exacerbated my guilt the other day when I asked her if she wanted a SpongeBob sticker. “My mom doesn’t let me watch SpongeBob,” replied the 6-year-old. I chose not to tell her that SpongeBob is my 4-year-old’s favorite show.)
7) I feel guilty for not forcing my children to eat healthier. Well, I mainly mean my 7-year-old son. (I don’t really have to worry about my daughter. Her favorite foods are broccoli, salmon, and avocados.). My son? I can’t remember the last time he ate a green vegetable.
6) I feel guilty for leaving my 9 month old black lab puppy in the crate all day. We purposely bought a puppy over the summer so I would be home with him. But after a summer of puppy spoiling, I cringe whenever I think of him being cooped up in that box until I get home from work. I keep trying to explain to him that if he would just stop chewing everything in sight, he wouldn’t have to go in the crate, but he’s not really getting it.
5) I feel guilty for taking super long showers. I’d like to say the guilt is over wasting water or scorching my skin, but it’s not. My guilt is over the fact that my showers are long simply because sometimes that’s the only alone time I get all day.
4) I feel guilty for the hours I spend working out. I know that working out improves my health (and my sanity), but I feel like it takes away from time I could be spending with my family or doing chores around the house. I feel guilty for taking that time to nurture myself.
3) I feel guilty for putting my children to bed early when I’m tired.
2) I feel guilty for being a working mom. When I get home from work, I need down time, but I also know I have very limited quality time with my kids in between homework, cooking dinner, and going to the gym (see #4). By the end of my work day, I sometimes feel I have nothing left to give and my patience is nonexistent. I often worry about how my status as a working mom affects my kids, especially my son, who had me as a full time mom for most of his life. And the “Mommy, why can’t you come on my field trip?” makes me want to cry.
1) I feel guilty that I spend more time with other people’s children than I do with my own. I often wonder if I know my students better than their own parents do. Which makes me wonder if my children’s teachers know them better than I do.
Now that I got that off my chest…what are you feeling guilty about these days?