I find comfort in other people’s words. I feel better knowing my feelings have been felt before. I’m motivated by encouraging sentiments. I can change my perspective for the better with a glimpse of another’s insight. 

That’s why I love quotes.

I started collecting quotes when I was a teenager and realized that other people could conceptualize what I couldn’t express myself. Twenty years later, as my divorce loomed, I once again found myself collecting quotes. They’re on my iPhone’s camera roll as memes. They’re saved as notes in my Evernote app. They’re scribbled in my daily planner, on Post-It notes in my purse and on random pieces of paper shoved in between pages as bookmarks.

I’ve stashed WAY more than 10 quotes that have helped me to find solace through my divorce journey. And I’m sure I’ll be sharing future top 10’s with more quotes. But for now, here are my favorite…

Top 10 Uplifting Divorce Quotes

10.  “Divorce
isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your
children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.”  
~Jennifer Weiner
9. “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”  ~Socrates
8. “Forgive yourself for not having the foresight to
know what now seems so obvious in hindsight.”  
~Judy Belmont
7. “There is no passion to be found playing small — in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”  
~Nelson Mandela
6. “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the
~Nora Ephron
5. “Growth is painful. Change is painful. But
nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.”  
~Mandy Hale
4. “Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”  
                   ~Jonathan Lockwood Huie
3. “Let go or be dragged.”  
~Zen Proverb
2. “Close some doors today. Not because of pride,
incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they lead you nowhere.”  
~Paulo Coelho

1. “We
must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is
waiting for us.”
  ~Joseph Campbell
What quotes have gotten you through a difficult time in your life?

4 Comments on Top 10 Uplifting Divorce Quotes

  1. BPinVA

    Hey Roller Coaster Wife, here are two from me.

    Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without. James Dobson


    Don't smother each other – no one can grow in the shade. Leo Buscaglia

    Don't exactly know for sure what makes a marriage last, my parents are 95 and 96 yrs. and one won't leave this earth without the other. She still tickles his toes each night before she goes to bed and he still laughs. That might be what got them thru 73 years of marriage.

    Keep on opening new doors and continue to let us walk the path with you. You are special and you will find that someone who you can't possibly live without but more important he will feel the same way.

  2. "Actually, I just woke up one day and decided I didn't want to feel like that anymore, or ever again, so I changed. Just like that."

    "One day she finally grasped that unexpected things were always going to happen in life. And with that, she realized the only control she had was how she chose to handle them. So, she made the decision to survive using courage, humor and grace. She was the queen of her own life and the choice was hers," Kathy Kinney

    "I love the person I've become, because I fought to become her," Kaci Diane

    "It is always our own self that we find at the end of a journey. The sooner we face that self, the better," Ella Maillart

    "Life is short, live it. Love is rare, grab it. Anger is bad, let go of it. Fear is a mind killer, face it. Memories are sweet, cherish them."

    "Don't forget you're human. It's OK to have a meltdown. Just don't unpack and live there. Cry it out. Then refocus on where you're headed."

    "Everything comes to you in the right moment. Be patient."

    "I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday."

    "By investing others with the power to dictate who you are, you rob yourself of an opportunity to truly grow. You shortchange yourself by devaluing the experiences and knowledge you've banked, all those things that have been making you, you."

    "The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building the new," Socrates

    "The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become."

    "Today I close the door to the past, open the door to the future, take a deep breath, step on through and start a new chapter in my life."

    "Don't mourn bad decisions – overcome them with good ones."

    "Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."

    "One day someone is going to hug you so tight that all of your broken pieces will stick back together."

    "One day, she remembered that the only person who could make her happy was herself! So she took back her power, reclaimed her place in the world and shined like never before."

    "You are allowed to terminate toxic relationships. You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. You are allowed to be angry and selfish and unforgiving. You don't owe anyone an explanation for taking care of yourself."

    "You don't need to attend every argument you're invited to."

    "Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we're settling for."

    "We accept the love we think we deserve."

    "The past is your lesson. The present is your gift. The future is your motivation."

    "Let go of the people who dull your shine, poison your spirit, and bring you drama. Cancel your subscription to their issues," Dr. Steve Maraboli

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