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I logged onto Facebook the other day and saw that I had a message on my Riding the Roller Coaster page. It was from a fellow military spouse who had a blog design question. Being the computer dummy that I am, I wasn’t able to answer her question. But she thanked me anyway, adding:
“I LOVE your blog. It has really helped me as we start our journey into the military life.”
In the 2 plus years I’ve been blogging, I’ve received lots of similar messages. I’ve also sent lots of similar messages as I expressed my own appreciation to other military spouse bloggers for telling it like it is, offering advice, making me laugh, making me cry, and sharing thoughts I never knew other mil spouses thought.
My heart warms when I get messages like these. It makes me feel good to know that I’ve helped someone in some small way, that I’ve given someone something that I was so desperately seeking when I was just starting out as a mil spouse.
During the first few years of my military spousedom, I felt trapped inside my own head. I didn’t know how I felt about the lifestyle. I was proud of my husband, but there were so many other emotions going on that I felt guilty for feeling because none of the other military spouses I knew voiced the same thoughts. Throw in a brand new military brat, followed closely by a deployment, followed closely by a PCS, and I felt like I was on a crazy roller coaster. And I wanted to get off.
Flash forward a few years later when I decided to start writing a blog. I had never read a blog before. I just loved writing, and since I planned to write a book one day, my mother-in-law suggested I start a blog (still thanking you P!). So I did. And because I was still hanging on, riding that winding, jolting roller coaster of military life, I figured what better name for my blog. Riding the Roller Coaster.
It wasn’t until I was several weeks into blogging that I discovered the vast world of mil spouse bloggers. I couldn’t believe there were so many of us out there! So many women sharing their stories and adventures and advice!
And suddenly, I wasn’t trapped inside my own head anymore.
I spent hours and days and weeks discovering blog after blog written by military spouses who were going through everything I was going through. My husband had just deployed for the second time, and unlike the first deployment, I felt a sense of camaraderie, a kind of united front against loneliness, fear, anger, sadness, and every other emotion I was too afraid to admit I was feeling. It didn’t matter that I had never met these women. It didn’t matter what branch our husbands serve in or what their ranks are. It didn’t matter our age or our educational background or where we live or whether or not we have kids. My husband was gone, but I wasn’t alone. I wasn’t riding that roller coaster by myself anymore.
I often think back to when I first started out as a mil spouse and how I would have loved the kind of guidance I have since found in the blogosphere. Where were mil spouse bloggers when I needed them 10 years ago?!
But that doesn’t matter anymore. All that matters is that I found you. And I’m so thankful to be a part this amazing community.
How did you discover the mil spouse blogging community? How does reading mil spouse blogs help you hang on while riding this military roller coaster?